Do you remember your Friday and Saturday nights before you became a mom? You’d head over to your girlfriend’s place around 9:00 pm, huddle in the front of the mirror and put loads of makeup on your young and rested face. You’d down a few pre-party drinks before heading out thinking 11:00 pm is still too early to be showing up at the bar.
What was fun about those days was the freedom. The adventure. Starting the night off with a plan, but winding up doing something completely different and unexpected, with a bit of mischievousness and loads of laughter mixed in between.
It’s not to say I miss those days. In fact, I am quite content spending my Saturday nights sipping on my glass of wine, rocking my mom bun and my fav pair of yoga pants and hitting my bed at 10:00 pm.
However, every now and then I get the itch. The itch to have a wild night with the girls. To laugh. To dance. To be young and free once again.
As a working mom, my biggest obstacle in having a night out is the GUILT.
Knowing that I already spend 40+ hours a week in an office and away from the kids, I have a hard time getting out, particularly overnight, without some level of guilt.
Does it stop me? Not all the time, but the guilt is always there until I remind myself of a few things.
If that mommy night out guilt creeps up on you, here are a few friendly reminders:
- YOU DESERVE IT – Ya, that’s right. You work hard all week and spend every other moment caring for your family. There should be no guilt in having an occasional night of freedom and fun. YOU DESERVE IT. I have to repeat this one over and over in my head sometimes in order for it to really sink in.
- It’s Healthy – A number of studies have been done over the years which prove that having friendships are healthy and can actually add to your life expectancy. I wouldn’t say taking shots at the bar is considered “healthy”, however, the fact that you are having fun with some pretty awesome girlfriends is.
- You’ll Be a Better Mom – Imagine yourself to be a robot. This probably isn’t too hard to do given you already spend so much time doing robot-like functions at home. Like a robot, your battery eventually runs low and needs a good recharging. While sleep and relaxation are definitely good ways to recharge, I believe escaping and having fun with the girls is as well. I am a completely reenergized momma the day I come back from a night out with the girls. Well, maybe I’m a tad hungover … but very happy give lots of kisses and hugs to my kiddos.
There is still a person hidden inside that tired and overworked mom. Don’t forget her. If partying with your girlfriends isn’t your thing, then do what is. Maybe it’s hanging out with some friends or having a dinner with a close gal pal. The point is we need to stop feeling guilty for having a night off.
GO OUT AND HAVE SOME FUN LADIES!!!